My name is Liz Sacks. I am a working mother. Like many of you, I must work. I have no choice. I carry around a load of working mother guilt, and try to reason it away with pithy little sayings like: “I enjoy work, it gives me adult time” or “my children and I get along better when we have some time apart.” Last but not least “maybe socialization is good for them.” I know these aren’t true, and sadly, they give little comfort to a mom whose heart is at home, with her kids.
I am blessed in that my mother watches my children 3 days a week, and my new infant, 5 days. Two days out of the week, my older girls (ages 4 and 2) go to the daycare where I work with me. This is a necessary evil, and one I would avoid if I could. But, in my line of work I know, sometimes there is no avoiding it. It is a fact of modern life.
Working at the daycare I have seen and heard many things from working mothers. I feel their pain instinctively, and have been in similar situations myself. That being said, I also see many parents in my line of work who do not share my thoughts and views on parenting.
So, what are my views on parenting, and why do I subscribe to them?
In a nutshell, I realize that motherhood is the most important job we have. It is also a God-given privilege. As anyone who is a parent knows, in parenting allows there is little room for selfishness. I’m not saying that you let your kids eat off your plate, sleep in your bed, be attached at the hip and run the roost. What I am saying is that parenting requires us to we admit to ourselves that teaching our children, preparing them for life should be apparent in everything we do.
When we come home from work, our children see us walk in that door, and we are have to be mommy instantly. We can’t say “hey guys! I need to wind down before I can do my mommy stuff”. Our kids are ready for us now. Every move we make, thought we act on, and task we accomplish is attended by an audience. It is our job to make the most of our time with our children by teaching them life lessons while loading the dishwasher, cooking supper, talking about our day, and even in how the ways we choose to take time to ourselves. As working mothers, we have even less time with our youngsters than stay-at-home moms do, let's make it count.
Here's a verse that applies to parenting as much as anything else:
“Whether therefore you eat, or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”